Thursday, May 10, 2007

perfectly ok

Tomorrow night I am hosting a party. I've been planning it for awhile, and I'm excited about it. You see, it's just for the ladies. All the important women in my life (well, nearly all...) We're going to eat, drink, and shop. What's better than that?

But, you know how it goes when you're the host. You go into overdrive, trying to get everything just right. I've devoted the last 3 weeks to party prep. Painting, painting, (more painting), arranging furniture on my newly freshened porch, buying this and that for it. My husband (poor guy) has heard more than his fair share of requests beginning with, "before the party, can we...?" And he's done as much as he can to get to all the items on the list. We both have.

But you know what? Not everything got done. I realized late Tuesday night that some things just weren't going to happen. Painting the porch floor. Getting the front garden beds under control. Heck, even planting my window boxes (although I do have a little shortcut there, and if I get a chance I'll post a picture.)

Whatever disappointment I was feeling about not accomplishing all the things on my list was scrapped when I heard some sad news earlier this week. The news was about a friend of a friend. And it put things in perspective for me. It 'righted' my tilted view.

There's nothing like a dose of real life to make you understand - however briefly - priorities. The timing couldn't have been better in my case.

Instead of focusing on what I don't have on Friday, I'm going to think about all the blessings that I do have. I'm going to relax, enjoy myself, and enjoy all the wonderful women who will be here. I'm sure when they look around my little cottage they will see only the good things, not what needs to be done or what needs attention. And I'm going to see the same.

17 comments:

Kimberly said...

Amen, i too will take a step back and think about what i do have!

Love the chair!

Libby said...

You have such good spirit, Meg, and I can't imagine that any of the important women in your life would ever be snooty about a porch floor. Have a wonderful party!

sisters with style said...

What a great attitude---think I will try to do the same. Have a great party.

tulipmom said...

Thanks for reminding me to focus on what's really important. I always drive myself crazy preparing for my in-laws' visits (they arrive tomorrow) and then I'm an exhausted mess by the time they arrive. This time I'm going to try to just be OK with what's done.

Hope you and your guests have a great time at the party.

yellowfarmhouse said...

Amen sister on that note. I recently had a situation that showed me what's really important and to celebrate the little things in life. I hope you have a wonderful evening with special woman and celebrate your friendships and all of life's little pleasures and surprises.

Rosemary said...

I know what you mean. We had a party last year, at this time for my daughter's fiance. He graduated from Law School. I was going crazy with details. Anyway, only you will notice what didn't get done.
Have a wonderful time.
Enjoy yourself!!
Rosemary

Susie Q said...

What a special and beautiful post! I have learned (some days are garder than others) to look at life this way but it took me to 50 to do so! I let myself get upset over far too much but you know, you DO have a lovely home...such a beautiful family...so many wonderful blessings.

I have been a long time reader and just love your blog.

You are a sweet and dear spirit and a joy. Have a wonderful time at the party and relax! It will be perfect!! You are perfect just the way you are!

Hugs,
Sue

suburban mom said...

I totally know what you mean. I go crazy when I'm throwing a party (or even a playgroup) - but there are *always* things that don't get done...and it is always OK. Things will look fab no matter what :)

homedaisy said...

enjoy it :)

hqm said...

Funny you should mention this today! My husband and I have been going crazy trying to prepare for our daughter's First Communion/Mother's day at our house. It is just family... I told him today we are not going to kill ourselves trying to make everything perfect!!!
Your party sound like a lot of fun! I've always wanted to host a pre- Mother's Day party for my girlfriends but it has never worked out! Have fun and relax!

velvet brick said...

I can so sympthasize with the 'overdrive' mindset that overtakes me when I'm hosting anything..big or small! But you are so right about how your guests will be so thrilled with what you HAVE done...and nary notice that which you think you have not done. Sorry for the news which righted your 'tilt'..but I thank you for sharing it. It was an important message. Enjoy the party! :)

Lallee said...

Meg, your party will be wonderful. Your guests will be the best adornment of all. I need a wake-up call myself. The party will never come if I wait for perfection. Thank you for sharing.

Kellie said...

Happy Mother's Day!
and enjoy your party!

navybluegirl said...

So true, so true.

I have that same flooring in our family room. I'm trying to figure out what to do with it.

Hope your party goes well:-)

Jolene George said...

What a great post Meg! It makes me like you even more than I already do. Enjoy the time with your friends tonight. It's going to be a lovely party and you have lots of reasons to count your blessings.

J's Crew said...

So true, good for you, have a great party!

Jen @ The Cottage Nest said...

I hope your gathering was a bunch of fun and that you are all recuperated now.